3h
A first atmosphere: a drink, dinner, the first sense of rhythm. Enough time to begin without rushing the beginning.
Dates & rates · All amounts in EUR · Indicative USD or GBP conversion on request
The diary is open for August and September
The Hours
There is no menu of services here, because that is not what this is. What you choose is time, and time is what decides whether an evening merely happens, or becomes somewhere you actually were.
An evening is measured in hours.
A good one is not.
August. I keep this month a little more open than most; it is my birthday month, and I would rather spend it celebrating than scheduling. The city grows busy toward the Grand Prix weekend late in the month, and busy cities make the case for a quiet evening in better than I ever could.
A note on late summer: the city has two busy weeks ahead, the Zandvoort Grand Prix in late August, the last time the race comes to the coast, and the IBC convention in mid September. If your dates fall in those weeks, a good suite grows scarce early, so it is wise to write to me a little sooner than you otherwise would.
The city fills again in late October, for the Dance Event and the week around it. The evenings that suit me best are the quiet ones on either side of the crowd.
The shape changes with time
What each hour buys is pace
4h
More room to settle. The conversation gets a second act; nobody is checking the time between courses.
6h
The clock moves to the background. Dinner becomes an evening; the evening becomes its own world.
12h
Overnight changes the pace entirely: rest, slowness, and morning as part of the same story.
24h+
A full day or travel: the city, the hotel and the table all become part of the experience.
The overnight world has its own page: Until Morning. And for evenings beyond Amsterdam, see The Netherlands.
Private invitations
Solo & Women
Opening Notes
Where first evenings beginThe First Atmosphere
A first meeting with enough time to settle, converse and let the evening find its rhythm.
3 hours
€1,500
The Unhurried Date
Dinner, drinks or a private evening with more space for ease and charge to build.
4 hours
€1,900
The Main Act
The clock recedesThe Evening Apart
For an evening that should not feel watched by the clock. The invitation my diary favours.
6 hours
€2,700
After Midnight
Night becomes morningNight Into Morning
An overnight invitation, private and unrushed. If you are torn between two tiers, this is the one I would choose for us.
12 hours
€4,000
Elsewhere
A world of its ownA Full Day Elsewhere
For a day and night with room for travel, dining, rest and privacy.
24 hours
€6,000
Fly Me To You / Travel With Me
Travel arrangements by discussion.
24-hour minimum
€6,000
A Longer Invitation
For extended arrangements.
Daily rate
€5,500/day
A note on the numbers
The rate reserves the hours. What fills them is attention, and that part is never itemised.
The rates are fixed and complete. The number you see is the number. Neither of us will think about it again once the evening starts.
The questions underneath
Some questions never make it into a note. Here they are anyway, answered straight.
"Is my note being graded?"
Read, yes; graded, no. I notice clarity and courtesy, and both are within anyone's reach. The notes that close a door do it by haggling, by rushing, or by vanishing. Imperfection has never closed one. Yours only has to be true.
"Is an evening really worth this much?"
That is yours to decide, and I would rather you decided honestly than talked yourself into anything. What the rate reserves is time that belongs entirely to you, prepared with care and shared with no clock. The number is fixed, it does not move for seasons or persuasion, and everything it includes is named before you commit. If it is too much this year, the page will still be here when that changes.
"Why would I hand my details to a stranger?"
Because I am a careful one, and the care runs both ways. Screening asks for the least it can, happens once, and is used for exactly one thing: knowing who joins me for an evening. I keep as little as possible and nothing longer than needed. It is a step I never waive, and that is the point: the same door that asks your name is the door that keeps the room private.
"What if someone I know found out?"
Found out what, from where. There is no public number, no tracking on this site, no name on post. Nothing is kept that does not need keeping. In public we read as exactly what we look like, two people at dinner. Discretion here is architecture. A promise would have been cheaper to make. I built this for my own privacy first, and yours sits behind the same door.
"I have someone at home. What am I doing here?"
You are asking a question many guests carry in quietly, and it deserves better than a verdict. Every relationship keeps its own weather, and wanting warmth, attention and to be wanted back is one of the more ordinary things a person carries; it needs no argument here. What happens between us stays between us, held with care and without judgement. If you want the longer answer, Your First Evening says it at length.
Shared invitations
For Couples
Everything on the Couples & Women page applies here, including the part where nobody in the room is reduced to an audience.
Opening Notes
A first shared eveningThe First Spark
A first shared meeting with time for ease, conversation and curiosity to settle.
3 hours
€1,950
The Shared Evening
For couples who want a considered, warm and private evening.
4 hours
€2,450
The Main Act
Room to find a rhythmThe Private World
More time, more privacy, and enough space for the evening to find its own rhythm.
6 hours
€3,500
After Midnight
The night, sharedThe Night Shared
An overnight invitation for a couple, arranged with care and clarity.
12 hours
€5,200
Elsewhere
Further togetherA Full Day Together
For an extended shared experience with room for dining, rest and privacy.
24 hours
€7,800
Travel With You
Travel arrangements by discussion.
24-hour minimum
€7,800
A Longer Shared Invitation
For extended arrangements with couples.
Daily rate
€7,200/day
How a date is held
Clarity is part of discretion.
Every meeting is arranged in advance, and I usually ask 24 to 48 hours of notice. Three hours is my minimum; dinner dates and longer engagements are what I enjoy most, so they get priority in my diary. Same-day meetings are sometimes possible, when my diary and the time to prepare and travel allow. They are welcome, new guests included, on three conditions. Your first note carries every practical detail. We complete the same screening at a quicker pace, because there is no shortcut around it, only a faster one. And a same-day arrangement fee of €300 is settled with the deposit. The fee is for the room I make at short notice. It never buys a place past screening.
New introductions are screened discreetly, and only once. A date is confirmed when screening is complete and the deposit has been received. Until then, the hours are not held.
The deposit runs between 30 and 50 percent, depending on location, duration and travel; multi-day invitations ask half, and fly-me-to-you or travel bookings are settled in full beforehand. Deposits are non-refundable. Cancel with reasonable notice and yours can move once to a new date, chosen at the moment of cancellation. Within 48 hours of our meeting the full fee is due. And in the unlikely event that I am the one who cancels, your deposit comes back to you in full.
None of this is bureaucracy. It is what allows both of us to walk into the evening without a single practical thought left in it. Dinner, travel expenses, accommodation and any agreed shared experiences are arranged separately. Travel is simple arithmetic. Within Amsterdam, travel and parking come to a flat €100. Beyond the city I usually drive, and take the train when it is the easier road. That is €0.50 per driven kilometre, rounded up to the nearest €10, plus €20 towards parking. A long stay or a city-centre garage can push the parking to €50 or more. Your exact figure is in the confirmation, before any deposit, so the number you agree to is the number. From three hours upward, small bites and drinks during our time together are included in how I host. Nobody flirts well on an empty stomach.
As for where we meet: a suite in a four- or five-star hotel, with a real bathtub, preferably freestanding, and a sitting area away from the bed. A good evening needs room to move between conversation, a drink and quiet. Your home can host us just as well when it offers that same comfort; I simply ask for a photo of the living room and the bedroom while we arrange things, shared and treated discreetly. And if you would rather leave the suite to me, I arrange it gladly.
Evenings begin between 11:00 and 21:00. Nine in the evening is the last start I take, so every invitation gets the hours it deserves.
Should an evening wish to run longer, time can sometimes be added there and then, as the evening allows and if my night is still my own, at €600 an hour, or €800 when I am with a couple, settled on the spot. Pre-booked hours remain the better value and the surer thing, so when in doubt, choose the longer invitation from the start.
If a series of evenings ever begins to feel like a rhythm worth keeping, there is a quieter way to hold it in the diary, kept for the returning few: The Arrangement.
Questions about any of it are welcome; the etiquette page answers most, plainly.
Choose the pace as well as the date
Give the evening enough hours to become its own.
When you write, include your preferred date, duration, city and the kind of evening you have in mind.
Six hours feels shorter than you think.