Etiquette

A good note does not need to be polished. It needs to be clear, courteous and genuinely intended. Include your preferred date, duration, location, whether you are writing solo, as a couple or as a woman, the atmosphere you have in mind, and a brief introduction.

A few clear sentences beat a long performance every time.

Yes. You do not need the perfect wording or unusual confidence. A clear, courteous note is enough to begin. If your invitation feels right, I will guide every next step calmly. There is also a page written exactly for you: Your First Evening.

Yes, when approached with honesty, respect and care. You do not need to have previous intimate or sexual experience to write to me. You also do not need to arrive perfectly confident, unusually smooth or certain of every detail.

What matters is attitude more than experience: kindness, patience, hygiene, safer sex, clear communication and respect for boundaries. If the invitation feels suitable, I will guide the next steps calmly. Nothing needs to be rushed, performed or proven.

Yes. Directness is welcome when it is kind. If you prefer clear expectations, have questions about the process, or find ambiguity stressful, you may say so. I value courtesy, patience and honesty far more than social performance.

Not perfectly. Date, duration, location and a general sense of atmosphere are enough. The finer details can be discussed once the introduction feels right.

If your note is suitable, I reply personally, within a day. Suitable means exactly what this site describes: courteous, clear about the practical details, and unhurried. I do not respond to rushed, crude or unclear messages.

Because the evening is private, and privacy has a doorway. Screening protects discretion, safety and the atmosphere of the room, for both of us. It lets me consider new introductions with care, and it means the time we share begins with trust instead of uncertainty. Details are handled discreetly, once.

There is more than one way to complete it; we choose together once your enquiry feels like a possible match. Whatever you share is handled with care and used for one purpose only: arranging our meeting. And to be plain about it: screening is not optional. If it is not comfortable for you, we are unlikely to be a good fit.

Entirely. Independent companionship is a legal, regulated profession in the Netherlands, and I work independently, by choice and on my own terms. Consider it one more thing you can stop wondering about.

After screening is complete and the deposit has been received. Until then, dates and times are not held. Deposit details are shared privately and clearly before confirmation, with no surprises.

The deposit is usually 30 to 50 percent, depending on location, duration and travel. Multi-day meetings ask 50 percent; fly-me-to-you and travel-with-me bookings are paid in full in advance. Travel, accommodation, dinner and other date expenses come on top unless we agree otherwise beforehand.

Privately and simply. Once we are in touch you receive the practical options; none of them are exotic, and nothing about them announces what they are for. Money is settled before the day, which is exactly why the day itself never mentions it.

Four things, in order: I read your note personally. If it feels right, I reply and we complete screening discreetly. Once the deposit is received, the date is confirmed and the practical part is over. Then there is nothing left between us and the evening.

Usually 24 to 48 hours; for evenings outside Amsterdam, closer to a week is kind. Three hours is my minimum, and dinner dates or longer engagements get priority in my diary. Same-day meetings are possible on rare occasions; they ask for ease and efficiency from both sides, so include every practical detail and say that you are ready to complete screening straight away. A same-day fee may apply.

Between 11:00 and 21:00. Nine in the evening is the last start I accept: a good invitation deserves its full hours, and so does the woman you are inviting. From three hours upward, small bites and drinks during our time are part of how I host.

Signal may be shared after a suitable introduction. It is not my public first-contact channel; the form and email here are where everything begins.

Then you will be like most people, and it will last about one drink. The first few minutes do not need to be perfect. Arriving as yourself is the whole assignment.

Warmth, curiosity and mutual respect. Instant familiarity is not required; the best encounters build gradually, which is precisely why I ask for enough hours.

Yes, both guests are screened, once each, and one of you is welcome to handle the practical side for the pair. It is quicker than it sounds, and I do like a brief hello from each of you in the note.

Begin with honesty: with each other first, then with me. I appreciate hearing from both of you, even briefly: hopes, nerves and boundaries included. My attention is never careless; balance matters. More on the Couples & Women page.

Yes. Curiosity does not need a perfect label. You are welcome to move slowly, ask questions and name nerves without embarrassment.

You may, and it is always noticed. A private forwarding address exists for letters and small parcels. It is not published here, but you are welcome to ask for it, before or after an evening. Gifts are never expected; the Attentions page says more about what delights me.

Every meeting is different, and chemistry cannot be forced. What I create is an atmosphere where you can feel at ease, attentive, unhurried and more awake to the person in front of you. The best evenings are not manufactured. They are given room.

My approach to intimacy is careful, respectful and grounded in mutual health. Safer sex is required, without exception. I test regularly and expect the same level of responsibility from those I meet. Please do not request exceptions.

If you are unwell, recently exposed to an STI, unsure of your status, or unable to approach health and hygiene with honesty, we should not meet until that has been resolved.

I reserve the right to decline any enquiry or end any arrangement that feels rushed, unclear, disrespectful, unsafe or unsuitable. This protects the good evenings, including yours.

Tell me as early as you can. Deposits are non-refundable, but cancel with reasonable notice and yours may be transferred once to a new date, chosen at the moment of cancellation. Cancel within 48 hours of our meeting and the full fee is due. If I am ever the one who has to cancel, your deposit is returned in full.

Repeated cancellations, unclear communication or disrespect close the door on future arrangements.

Privacy is mutual and taken seriously in both directions. I do not share identifying details, and I expect the same care in return. There is no public phone number, no tracking on this site, and nothing about you is kept that does not need to be.