Etiquette

A good note does not need to be polished. It needs to be clear, courteous and genuinely intended. Include your preferred date, duration, location, whether you are writing solo, as a couple or as a woman, the atmosphere you have in mind, and a brief introduction.

A few clear sentences beat a long performance every time.

Yes. You do not need the perfect wording or unusual confidence. A clear, courteous note is enough to begin. If your invitation feels right, I will guide every next step calmly. There is also a page written exactly for you: Your First Evening.

Yes, when approached with honesty, respect and care. You do not need to have previous intimate or sexual experience to write to me. You also do not need to arrive perfectly confident, unusually smooth or certain of every detail.

What matters is attitude more than experience: kindness, patience, hygiene, safer sex, clear communication and respect for boundaries. If the invitation feels suitable, I will guide the next steps calmly. Nothing needs to be rushed, performed or proven.

Yes. Directness is welcome when it is kind. If you prefer clear expectations, have questions about the process, or find ambiguity stressful, you may say so. I value courtesy, patience and honesty far more than social performance.

Not perfectly. Date, duration, location and a general sense of atmosphere are enough. The finer details can be discussed once the introduction feels right.

If your note is suitable, I reply personally, within a day. Suitable means exactly what this site describes: courteous, clear about the practical details, and unhurried. I do not respond to rushed, crude or unclear messages.

Since nobody writes this down, here it is. The guests I look forward to are courteous. They are clear about the practical things and honest about what they want from an evening. They read a little before they write, they do not haggle, and they do not vanish. That is the whole list, and none of it asks you to be impressive.

A fair question in this age, and I would rather you asked it than wondered. My profile on Tryst is verified and says exactly what this site says; the same voice writes both, and the same voice meets you. Check me there first, and then you are welcome to write here, where the conversation is private.

Gracefully. Business brings some of the best evenings: a good dinner at the end of a working day, with nothing left to manage and no laptop in sight. Give me the dates you hold, your hotel or the part of town, and the hours you can honestly protect, and I will suggest a shape that fits them. During busy weeks the city fills early, so write sooner than feels necessary.

Because the evening is private, and privacy has a doorway. Screening protects discretion, safety and the atmosphere of the room, for both of us. It lets me consider new introductions with care, and it means the time we share begins with trust instead of uncertainty. Details are handled discreetly, once.

There is more than one way to complete it; we choose together once your enquiry feels like a possible match. Whatever you share is handled with care and used for one purpose only: arranging our meeting. And to be plain about it: screening is not optional. If it is not comfortable for you, we are unlikely to be a good fit.

Entirely. Independent companionship is a legal, regulated profession in the Netherlands, and I work independently, by choice and on my own terms. Consider it one more thing you can stop wondering about.

That answers the law. The law is rarely the question underneath. The question underneath is what anyone would think, and the honest answer is that nobody is given the chance to think anything. There is no public phone number and no tracking on this site. Nothing is kept that does not need keeping. No version of an evening with me leaves a trace anywhere else in your life. Discretion is the material the whole thing is built from, and it runs in both directions.

After screening is complete and the deposit has been received. Until then, dates and times are not held. Deposit details are shared privately and clearly before confirmation, with no surprises.

The deposit is usually 30 to 50 percent, depending on location, duration and travel. Multi-day meetings ask 50 percent; fly-me-to-you and travel-with-me bookings are paid in full in advance. Travel, accommodation, dinner and other date expenses come on top unless we agree otherwise beforehand.

Privately and simply. Once we are in touch you receive the practical options; none of them are exotic, and nothing about them announces what they are for. Money is settled before the day. The day itself never mentions it. Many guests like to arrange every practical thing well ahead, so that nothing about money ever reaches the evening, and that suits me too.

When a transfer is the route, it carries a neutral account name and a plain reference, and reads on a statement as nothing in particular. That is by design: what happens between us belongs to no one else, your bank included. If a transfer is ever the wrong road for you, say so and we find a better one.

Four things, in order: I read your note personally. If it feels right, I reply and we complete screening discreetly. Once the deposit is received, the date is confirmed and the practical part is over. Then there is nothing left between us and the evening.

Usually 24 to 48 hours; for evenings outside Amsterdam, closer to a week is kind. Three hours is my minimum, and dinner dates or longer engagements get priority in my diary. Same-day meetings are possible on rare occasions; they ask for ease and efficiency from both sides, so include every practical detail and say that you are ready to complete screening straight away. A same-day arrangement fee of €300 is settled with the deposit.

Between 11:00 and 21:00. Nine in the evening is the last start I accept: a good invitation deserves its full hours, and so does the woman you are inviting. From three hours upward, small bites and drinks during our time are part of how I host.

In a suite at a four- or five-star hotel: a real bathtub, preferably freestanding, and a sitting area separate from the bed. An evening needs room to breathe, and a suite gives it exactly that. If you would rather leave the arranging to me, Suite Evenings explains how that works.

Your own home is welcome too, provided it offers the same standard of comfort. In that case I ask for a photo of the living room and the bedroom while we arrange our date. It is a small formality, handled discreetly, and it means neither of us meets a surprise.

Simple arithmetic. Within Amsterdam, travel and parking come to a flat €100. Beyond the city it is €0.50 per driven kilometre, rounded up to the nearest €10, plus €20 towards parking. A long stay or an expensive garage can push that part to €50 or more. I usually drive, and take the train when it is the easier road. The exact figure is in your confirmation before any deposit, so nothing about the day surprises either of us.

No. The shapes on the Experiences pages are included in the hours; the rate does not change with the theme of the evening. The only additions are real ones, agreed in advance: date expenses such as dinner and travel, the flat suite fee when I arrange the hotel, and specific items an evening asks me to buy, as with certain roleplay requests.

Signal may be shared after a suitable introduction. It is not my public first-contact channel; the form and email here are where everything begins.

Because the first hour is mostly arrival. Coats, first glasses, and the settling of two strangers into company all take their time, and I would rather not sell you an evening that ends just as it begins to work. Three hours gives ease a runway. Hours that look long on paper rarely feel long at the table.

Sometimes, and I like it when an evening earns the question. If my night is still my own, hours can be added there and then, at €600 an hour, or €800 when I am with a couple, settled on the spot. Pre-booked hours are the better value and the surer thing, so when you are torn, choose the longer invitation from the start.

Then you will be like most people, and it will last about one drink. The first few minutes do not need to be perfect. Arriving as yourself is the whole assignment.

Warmth, curiosity and mutual respect. Instant familiarity is not required. The best encounters build gradually, and I ask for enough hours to let them.

Yes, both guests are screened, once each, and one of you is welcome to handle the practical side for the pair. It is quicker than it sounds, and I do like a brief hello from each of you in the note.

Begin with honesty: with each other first, then with me. I appreciate hearing from both of you, even briefly: hopes, nerves and boundaries included. My attention is never careless; balance matters. More on the Couples & Women page.

Yes. Curiosity does not need a perfect label. You are welcome to move slowly, ask questions and name nerves without embarrassment.

You may, and it is always noticed. A private forwarding address exists for letters and small parcels. It is not published here, but you are welcome to ask for it, before or after an evening. Gifts are never expected; the Attentions page says more about what delights me.

Every meeting is different, and chemistry cannot be forced. What I create is an atmosphere where you can feel at ease, attentive, unhurried and more awake to the person in front of you. The best evenings are not manufactured. They are given room.

Lightly. Come rested and freshly showered, dress as you would for a good restaurant, and bring nothing to perform. A drink and twenty minutes will do most of the settling for both of us. Everything beyond that is my part.

Rarer than you fear, because little here is left to chance. I accept the invitations where I can already sense the evening, and I arrive intending to enjoy you. If a spark stays quiet, the floor never drops out. You still spend the hours with warm, attentive company at a good table. By any honest measure that is a fine evening.

Yes, wholeheartedly. Some of the loveliest evenings are a table, a bottle and a conversation that refuses to end. Nothing further is ever assumed and nothing further is ever owed; the shape of an evening is set by what we both want from it. Say so in your note and I will plan for exactly that.

My approach to intimacy is careful, respectful and grounded in mutual health. Safer sex is required, without exception. I test regularly and expect the same level of responsibility from those I meet. Please do not request exceptions.

If you are unwell, recently exposed to an STI, unsure of your status, or unable to approach health and hygiene with honesty, we should not meet until that has been resolved.

I reserve the right to decline any enquiry or end any arrangement that feels rushed, unclear, disrespectful, unsafe or unsuitable. This protects the good evenings, including yours.

Tell me as early as you can. Deposits are non-refundable, but cancel with reasonable notice and yours may be transferred once to a new date, chosen at the moment of cancellation. Cancel within 48 hours of our meeting and the full fee is due. If I am ever the one who has to cancel, your deposit is returned in full.

Repeated cancellations, unclear communication or disrespect close the door on future arrangements.

Privacy is mutual and taken seriously in both directions. I do not share identifying details, and I expect the same care in return. There is no public phone number, no tracking on this site, and nothing about you is kept that does not need to be.

As little as possible, for as short a time as possible. What screening asks for is used to arrange our meeting and is never shared, and what does not need keeping is not kept. This protects us both equally; my privacy runs on the same rules as yours. If you ever want something removed, ask, and it is done.